The 10 Things That Women Tell Their Friends They Hate About You, In Bed

Have you ever heard what a conversation amongst women is like? Truth is, women do not only discussed topics such as the latest model of high-heels on sale or about their kids. Women do discuss about sex and it is apparently one of their favorite topics. Do not be surprise if they ever complain about your sexual performance to their friends.

So how do you prevent yourself from becoming the joke among your woman’s girlfriends? Simple, make sure you are damn good in bed.

Below are 10 common sex mistakes that many men commit when trying to get into a sex position.

Mistake 1: Pumping hard like a Jack Hammer.

The worst place any men can learn how to be good in bed is to learn from porn videos. Many of the sex techniques in these videos are designed only for visual stimuli. Pumping her hard and fast through out will only cause her to become sore more quickly.

Sex is not just a one sided affair. Instead of acting out a scene of a porn movie, pay more attention to her body language and watch out for things that she enjoys you to do.

Mistake 2: Staying in the same sex position throughout the session.

Think about it, do you enjoy it when your woman is only licking the tip of your penis for the next 10 minutes, without actually going down on you all the way? I’m sure it sucks big time.

It is also the same for women if you continue hump away in the same sex position for the next 20 minutes. Keeping your routine stagnant will eventually bore her and she may start to lose interest in sex, with you.

Instead, learn to transit from one sexual position to another without breaking the momentum.

Mistake 3: Attempting to be fanciful in bed.

Although it’s better to have variations in your sex techniques, do not over do it for the sake of impressing her.

Over complicating things can disrupt the atmosphere for good sex. Just stick to positions that she can get into easily and focus on stimulating her.

Mistake 4: “Dead Fish” position?

Don’t be mistaken, this is not a new sex position. In fact, this is a fairly common position where a woman gets on top of you.

The only difference, is that you are just lying there like a “dead fish” and not doing anything. Hence the name, “Dead Fish” position.

While you may be relieve that now it is your turn to lie on your back and rest, the deed is not yet over.

While you lie on your back, caress and fondle her bum as you suck on her nipples. This will further arouse her and it’s one of the proven methods that women get their orgasms from.

Mistake 5: Inferior Complexity in Bed.

It is okay to let her take control once in awhile to understand where she likes to be touch and stimulated.

Avoid asking her too much about how she feels in bed while you are at it, inside of her. This is a sure way turn her off as it shows the weakness of your uncertainty.

If you portray yourself as somebody who lacks confidence, she’ll pick up these signs and eventually she may even pass having sex with you. Women want a real man in bed not a weakling.

Mistake 6: Unkept Bush

Always have the habit of “mowing the lawn” before you engage oral sex with your partner. Most women actually prefer their men to trim their pubic area.

Having wisp of hair caught on her tongue would be a great way to say goodbye to your last oral sex you will ever get from her.

Mistake 7: Smelling like a dead squid

One of the biggest turn off for women in bed, is to smell as if you have not showered for days. Especially if you want her to go down on you, do wash yourself clean and apply some male pheromone infused perfume on your pubic area to entice her.

Mistake 8: Taking Things for granted

You should never be complacent and get used to your already stale sex routine. Doesn’t mean everytime she is receptive of your sexual advances or she expresses herself in a satisfying manner, means she is enjoying what you are doing.

Do not abuse your privilege of only satisfying yourself when you are in bed with her. Eventually she will feel that making love with you is only a one-sided affair and she may not be as enthusiastic about having sex with you in the future.

Mistake 9: Not being creative enough

Don’t be afraid of introducing foreign items into your love-making routine. You will be surprise to see how it will excite your woman when she is unable to expect what is to come after wards.

Introduce food such as whip cream, chocolate sauce or any of her favorite candy. Women get especially turn on if she see’s you licking off her favorite “sinful pleasure” off her body.

Mistake 10: Failing to communicate

This is by far the most important factor to be taken into consideration, if couples want to enjoy great sex with their partners. Women has more than one erogenous spot that will trigger orgasms.

However, not all women like stimulation in the same spot. What may have worked on your previous partner maybe result in a totally different reaction from your current partner. Take time to learn the hot spots of your partner. If necessary, ask her to guide your hand along her favorite positions.

P.S Now that you know the mistakes that majority of the men are making. It is important not to commit these errors if you want to stand out from the crowd. Go correct these mistakes and you can be sure that this time, your girlfriend will brag to her friends about your performance in bed instead!

The One Thing That Every Guy Gets It Wrong During Intercourse

Last weekend, I met up with an old  high school friend that I’ve not seen in years. We had the usual catch up  dinner sort of thing at one of the local Thai-themed restaurants, called Sakura. The food is really good, especially the Oyster Ommelette.

Just in case you come here (Singapore) on a holiday, you might wanna go to the Far East Plaza Shopping Centre to check that out.

But I digress.

She asked me what I did for a living and I told her I write.

She was astonished.  After all, back in high school, I used to let her write all my essays for me. I suck  pretty much in almost every subject except chemistry. Heck, I even suck at art!

You must be thinking what a nerd I am.

Well, you are right. I was pretty much a nerd.  But, only ON THE INSIDE.

Anyway, back to the story. I found out that she had quite a spontaneous lifestyle. She did whatever that interests her and she never allowed herself to be tied up by one man. Over the past few years, she had done a lot of travelling, meeting new people.

She was totally different from the shy and reserved girl in high school. Come to think of it now, she must have gotten sick of  people taking her for granted all the time… I actually felt guilty.

“So what do you write about?” she asked.

“I’m writing about adult education”. I said, trying to divert the conversation.

Well, I can be pretty conservative in what I do, especially towards friends and relatives. To most of them, it always seems like a big deal whenever sex is involved.

The older generation would look at sex as if it was never part of their reality. To them, sex is obscene and shameful and should only be practised behind closed doors.

The younger generation however, tend to put sex on a pedestal. There was once, where a few of my friends were hoping to get lucky with women at a club.  They started going around telling women that there’s a  Sex Instructor amongst them, thinking it would attract their attention.

I think we both know, it’s not going to happen that way.

Anyway, she was really persistent. So I finally gave in.

“I’m writing a book about giving women better orgasms“. I admitted.

The rest of the night, is history… No, we didn’t have sex. But she gave me some really insightful information from a female perspective, which I want to share with you.

Her: I prefer to have a lot of interaction with my partner during sex.

Me: What do you mean by interaction?

Her: Well, I love to tease him and be teased in return. I like being tickled and it really turns me on to watch him remove my clothing slowly, piece by piece.

It can get really exciting, because I won’t know what he’ll be up to next.

Me: Nice… So what is the thing that most guys got it wrong during sex?

Her: Well, not kissing and cuddling enough. My last boyfriend literally head south everytime we begin. He doesn’t even go down on me. I actually felt like a whore doing it with him. He’ll just finish his deed and fall asleep right after.

Me: Yeah, foreplay is really important. I think women usually reach orgasms much faster if the foreplay was much longer.

Her: Exactly! It alsot makes me feel closer to my partner and I would want to do it with him, even more.

Me: So, have you faked orgasms when you were with your previous boyfriend?

Her: Yeah, I have to. I just want to get it done and over with quickly.

Me: Is it because he’s trying too hard to make you come that it hurts after awhile?

Her: Not really, I just find it really boring and a drag to do it with him.

Me: I know it sucks. You are definitely not the only women who have to put up with men like that.

Her: Yeah, and it’s so frustrating.

Me: A lot of women don’t come during vaginal penetration. What’s your take on that?

Her: It really depends. But I think I know where the problem is. Most guys tend to thrust in and out. Sometimes I can’t even feel him inside me if he goes too fast. But instead if he rocks up and down, I can come really quickly even if he leaves his penis inside me throughout.

Well, this conversation is as far as it goes. But, it pretty much sums up everything you need to do in bed, with your partner.

We bid our goodbyes and I told her I may need her to help me co-write the upcoming book as well.

By now you should know better than your peers that foreplay is really important to a woman.

Remember, when you’re already down south, do not make the mistake of  thrusting in and out like a porntstar. Keep your body close and rock her, as if you are grinding her.

I guess I shall stop here in case you get info-constipated. Try it out with your partner, and see the results for yourself!

P.S. I’m not sure if your woman ever comes clean with how she feels about having sex with you. But just to be safe,  have a look at this to have a better idea of what’s on her mind.

Is She Faking Her Orgasms? – The Story of Kynan

I happened to meet an old friend coincidentally at a bar, on the night just before Valentine’s.

His name is Kynan, a friend that I made during National Service. When ever we had a break from military training, we’ll always get into conversations about which girl he slept with and all the intimate details that went along with it.

He was naturally good with ladies, until he settled down, or so it seems.

He looks quite troubled and he wanted to talk. So after  sharing a couple round of drinks, he opened up to me and shared his problems.

“You know, I’ve always been good with women… But I think I’m losing it“,  he said. Read more