The One Thing That Every Guy Gets It Wrong During Intercourse

Last weekend, I met up with an old  high school friend that I’ve not seen in years. We had the usual catch up  dinner sort of thing at one of the local Thai-themed restaurants, called Sakura. The food is really good, especially the Oyster Ommelette.

Just in case you come here (Singapore) on a holiday, you might wanna go to the Far East Plaza Shopping Centre to check that out.

But I digress.

She asked me what I did for a living and I told her I write.

She was astonished.  After all, back in high school, I used to let her write all my essays for me. I suck  pretty much in almost every subject except chemistry. Heck, I even suck at art!

You must be thinking what a nerd I am.

Well, you are right. I was pretty much a nerd.  But, only ON THE INSIDE.

Anyway, back to the story. I found out that she had quite a spontaneous lifestyle. She did whatever that interests her and she never allowed herself to be tied up by one man. Over the past few years, she had done a lot of travelling, meeting new people.

She was totally different from the shy and reserved girl in high school. Come to think of it now, she must have gotten sick of  people taking her for granted all the time… I actually felt guilty.

“So what do you write about?” she asked.

“I’m writing about adult education”. I said, trying to divert the conversation.

Well, I can be pretty conservative in what I do, especially towards friends and relatives. To most of them, it always seems like a big deal whenever sex is involved.

The older generation would look at sex as if it was never part of their reality. To them, sex is obscene and shameful and should only be practised behind closed doors.

The younger generation however, tend to put sex on a pedestal. There was once, where a few of my friends were hoping to get lucky with women at a club.  They started going around telling women that there’s a  Sex Instructor amongst them, thinking it would attract their attention.

I think we both know, it’s not going to happen that way.

Anyway, she was really persistent. So I finally gave in.

“I’m writing a book about giving women better orgasms“. I admitted.

The rest of the night, is history… No, we didn’t have sex. But she gave me some really insightful information from a female perspective, which I want to share with you.

Her: I prefer to have a lot of interaction with my partner during sex.

Me: What do you mean by interaction?

Her: Well, I love to tease him and be teased in return. I like being tickled and it really turns me on to watch him remove my clothing slowly, piece by piece.

It can get really exciting, because I won’t know what he’ll be up to next.

Me: Nice… So what is the thing that most guys got it wrong during sex?

Her: Well, not kissing and cuddling enough. My last boyfriend literally head south everytime we begin. He doesn’t even go down on me. I actually felt like a whore doing it with him. He’ll just finish his deed and fall asleep right after.

Me: Yeah, foreplay is really important. I think women usually reach orgasms much faster if the foreplay was much longer.

Her: Exactly! It alsot makes me feel closer to my partner and I would want to do it with him, even more.

Me: So, have you faked orgasms when you were with your previous boyfriend?

Her: Yeah, I have to. I just want to get it done and over with quickly.

Me: Is it because he’s trying too hard to make you come that it hurts after awhile?

Her: Not really, I just find it really boring and a drag to do it with him.

Me: I know it sucks. You are definitely not the only women who have to put up with men like that.

Her: Yeah, and it’s so frustrating.

Me: A lot of women don’t come during vaginal penetration. What’s your take on that?

Her: It really depends. But I think I know where the problem is. Most guys tend to thrust in and out. Sometimes I can’t even feel him inside me if he goes too fast. But instead if he rocks up and down, I can come really quickly even if he leaves his penis inside me throughout.

Well, this conversation is as far as it goes. But, it pretty much sums up everything you need to do in bed, with your partner.

We bid our goodbyes and I told her I may need her to help me co-write the upcoming book as well.

By now you should know better than your peers that foreplay is really important to a woman.

Remember, when you’re already down south, do not make the mistake of  thrusting in and out like a porntstar. Keep your body close and rock her, as if you are grinding her.

I guess I shall stop here in case you get info-constipated. Try it out with your partner, and see the results for yourself!

P.S. I’m not sure if your woman ever comes clean with how she feels about having sex with you. But just to be safe,  have a look at this to have a better idea of what’s on her mind.