How to Hook Up With a Woman – Be Her Friend First

Last night, I met 4 beautiful ladies at  a bar. They are students of “The Legend” of a professional nature. The girls were having a bachelorettes night out and they thought inviting us would be good fun.

The ladies were very friendly but things got a little too boring for me when the conversation drifted to a boring topic… WORK!

So I turned to one of the girls who seemed just as bored and asked, “Is that what you guys always talk about?”

“Well, not really… They just want to pick his brains”. She said.

Her: So, is he like boss or something? (Pointing to “The Legend”)

Me: Let’s just say that I don’t make a good employee.

Her: How come?

Me: Cuz, I suck at bootlicking?

Her: *laughs*

Within a short while, we were already poking fun at each other.  The rest of the girls who heard the commotion started joining into our conversation.

We were just discussing about what we usually do in our free time when “The Legend” suddenly let the cat out of the bag and revealed that I have been practicing Muay Thai (Thai Boxing).

“You, muay thai? You don’t seem like the type who would get involved in a fight.” One of the girls said, looking at me in disbelief.

I immediately dismiss it with a off-handed remark, “Yeah, you’re right. I’m more of a guy who makes balloon animals for kids”.

The group laughed again heartily and I knew that I have won over the group of ladies!

At the end of the night, the girl that I spent the most time with; told me that she would like to meet me again.

I know I’m going to have to re-organize my bedroom schedule and reserve a spot for her.

Are able to figure out what happen?

All I did was just being laid back and goofy and I got her attention!

If I was in a similar situation a couple of years back, I might not have handle the situation just as well. I probably be so engrossed in anticipating what to say next that I’ll miss out the point of the whole conversation.

Woman can sense if you are struggling to keep up with the conversation with her.

Be spontaneous, do not be afraid of saying something stupid. You will only put unnecessary pressure on yourself if you worry too much about being judged.

Hooking up with a woman is a transition that begins with being friends first.

The idea here is to gain their trust and get them to be comfortable around you.

Planning the right things to say in advance can put unnecessary pressure on yourself.

Talk to her as if you’ve known her for a long time. Treat her like she’s one of your regular beer buddies.

You don’t talk to your friends as if you wanna get into their pants, do you?