I was shy, especially towards attractive looking women. Every time a woman looked past my direction, I’ll just look away, avoiding her eyes.

Initiating a conversation with a woman was never part of my equation. I was too petrified of facing rejection in public.

I believe at some point in time you might have been in a similar situation as me, getting tongue tied when the opportunity to talk to that special someone arrives.

But I’ve found a great way to overcome my fear to speak to women overtime. Not only that, I can also speak to many attractive women at the same time, without having to face direct rejection from them.

You might have probably guess it. Its Online Dating! I have personally went out with 3 other women I met on a local Social Bookmarking website called “WholivesNearYou”.

It literally shows you the distance how far you live away from the person you are talking to! One of the girls I met actually turned out to be living in the same block as I am!

So, enough of the fluff talk. I’m sure by now, you are fully aware of the potential of social bookmarking websites.

So here’s a list of things you need to do, if you decided to chat up that hot babe you met on the internet.

1. Dun seek approval.

2. Dun kiss up to women.

3. Tease her… Make fun of her playfully.

4. Dun mention sex.

5. Pick up something in their profile about them.

6. Do not sell  yourself as a potential lover.

7. Talk to her as if  you are striking up a conversation with a good friend.

8. You need to have a reason why you’re sending her a message.

9. Dun show that you are interested in her too early.

10. Keeping it short and simple.

11. Ice Breaker not to pose as a threat ( Being funny)

12. Keeping it casual.

13. No pressure.

Below is an example of what I’d say to start a conversation.

“After a rigorously brief overview of your profile picture (since your profile is private).

I wanted to let you know that I have already married and divorced you in my mind.

Thanks for all the wonderful imaginary memories…

You will always have a special place in my heart.

Your ex-hubby,
Orrick

PS. I’m going to need half your money according to our prenup =)”

Here’s a little secret, if you’re really new at this. And you have a dysfuctional sense of humor that nobody can understand, all you need to do is rip off these conversation starters in forums where people exchanged ideas on how to meet women online.

It’s powerful stuff! Once you start getting the hang of it, you’ll be able to start coming up with things on your own.

Try tweaking your conversation starters according to these tips. I guarantee you’ll have  an increase in responses from women!

Cheers!.

Especially when it seems that you’ve done everything you can to be the perfect man for her, yet it still didn’t work out.

Just before you show her the finger and call her an “ungrateful b*tch”, I need to tell you something really important.

YOU’RE PROBABLY THE ONE WHO’S BEEN SCREWING UP ALL THIS WHILE!

I know, I know… The truth hurts. It took me several FAILED relationships before I realized I got it all wrong.

Well, there’s a way to prevent your woman from cheating, without being an absolute jerk. Actually, you can once in awhile, to spice things up… But don’t be a complete A**hole about it.

So, why is it your fault that causes women to stray? First, we have to get right down to the source – A woman’s emotions.

There’s an “old” saying, which you might have heard a gazillion times.

It goes something like this, “Men need sex to feel loved. But women need love to have sex”.

If another man wants to get into the pants of your woman, he’ll first need to connect with her at an emotional level she has not experienced with you, to be able to tempt her.

All it takes for the other guy to succeed, is to get into a “heart to heart” talk with her or get her involved in a new experience she’s never had. And it’s enough to make her think about him the whole day.

If you guys remember “The Legend”, a very good friend of mine who taught me how to attract women, he literally stole a girl right under her boyfriend’s nose at a bar. The guy went off dancing with a couple of friends leaving both of us to “watch” his girlfriend. Apparently, she wasn’t feeling well that night and we were not in the mood to dance as well.

She looked rather glum. So “The Legend” asked her a question offhandedly, “When was the last time did you cry over a someone”? The next thing I knew, he’d sparked off a never-ending conversation with the girl and it kept her talking.

All he did was just listen; something that I’ve never seen him done before.

The following day, he asked her to join us at the “fish spa”.  We were required to soak our feet into a pool where there were many tropical fishes, nibbling on the dead skin cells.

She laughed and giggle and pretended to complain about it being ticklish. It was obviously something she hasn’t tried before and she was enjoying herself.

At the end of the day, I drove the both of them back to his place.

The point I’m trying to make is, women are emotionally vulnerable creatures!

Although they have very different reasons from men, when it comes to jumping in the sack with someone else; it’s almost too easy for any guy to get her to come home with him if he knows the right buttons to push.

Treating her overtly nice all the time or neglecting her feelings altogether is equally detrimental to your relationship!

Women needs a little unpredictability to have her emotional senses stimulated once in awhile!

Occasionally, you need to surprise her with things that reminds her of the attraction she felt for you when you first got together.

It can be little things like challenging her verbally, teasing her or even displaying your culinary skills. The idea is not to let your relationship becomes monotonous and routinized.

Don’t just look upon her as a lover. Instead, treat her like your brat sister where you get into little cute disputes with. You can also looked upon her as your buddy where you guys can do crazy stuff together.

Once you are able to connect with her at all her emotional levels, plus applying the techniques from the Sex Manuscript, she’ll be convinced that you’re her one and only soul mate she want to spend the rest of her life with.

The ladies were very friendly but things got a little too boring for me when the conversation drifted to a boring topic… WORK!

So I turned to one of the girls who seemed just as bored and asked, “Is that what you guys always talk about?”

“Well, not really… They just want to pick his brains”. She said.

Her: So, is he like boss or something? (Pointing to “The Legend”)

Me: Let’s just say that I don’t make a good employee.

Her: How come?

Me: Cuz, I suck at bootlicking?

Her: *laughs*

Within a short while, we were already poking fun at each other.  The rest of the girls who heard the commotion started joining into our conversation.

We were just discussing about what we usually do in our free time when “The Legend” suddenly let the cat out of the bag and revealed that I have been practicing Muay Thai (Thai Boxing).

“You, muay thai? You don’t seem like the type who would get involved in a fight.” One of the girls said, looking at me in disbelief.

I immediately dismiss it with a off-handed remark, “Yeah, you’re right. I’m more of a guy who makes balloon animals for kids”.

The group laughed again heartily and I knew that I have won over the group of ladies!

At the end of the night, the girl that I spent the most time with; told me that she would like to meet me again.

I know I’m going to have to re-organize my bedroom schedule and reserve a spot for her.

Are able to figure out what happen?

All I did was just being laid back and goofy and I got her attention!

If I was in a similar situation a couple of years back, I might not have handle the situation just as well. I probably be so engrossed in anticipating what to say next that I’ll miss out the point of the whole conversation.

Woman can sense if you are struggling to keep up with the conversation with her.

Be spontaneous, do not be afraid of saying something stupid. You will only put unnecessary pressure on yourself if you worry too much about being judged.

Hooking up with a woman is a transition that begins with being friends first.

The idea here is to gain their trust and get them to be comfortable around you.

Planning the right things to say in advance can put unnecessary pressure on yourself.

Talk to her as if you’ve known her for a long time. Treat her like she’s one of your regular beer buddies.

You don’t talk to your friends as if you wanna get into their pants, do you?

Alright, just a quick re-cap. In the previous article, I talked about how I met “The Legend” and learnt his unconventional methods to get laid in the same night of meeting any woman.

To be honest with you, no secret sex technique in the world is going to help you to get get more sex, if you don’t know how to court a woman.

Unless you have a reputation of being an “Expert at giving female orgasms”, your chances of jumping into the sack with the girl you are secretly admiring, is just next to zero.

Not to worry, this isn’t the end of the world yet. Like you, I too started out climbing up from the bottom of the sex chain.

Everything that I know about making a girl feel sexual attraction towards me, was learned, rehearsed and practiced, until I’m able to present my best self to a woman.

And you my friend, can also do the same.

Just as promised. Today, I’m going to share with you one particular lesson that I learnt from “The Legend” which has literally changed my perspective about courting women!

In the highly competitive society we now live in, many people feel the pressure to try harder in whatever they do, in order to get ahead. Apparently, this saying goes the same for dating as well.

In case you haven’t yet realised, a lot of men, have moved past the age of treating a girl exceptionally nice every time he sees her or constantly lavishing her with gifts

Such methods are already considered cliche and they don’t work as well anymore (If still don’t know about this, it means you’re not dating enough women!).

With the conenience of the internet, searching for dating tips has become much more accessible. Thus, it leads men to change their method of courtship.

While most advices today preach about not being a door mat to women or adopting a “badboy” like attitude,  women find most attractive. These methods often back fire and make you look like a complete a**hole if its not in your nature to behave in that manner.

You get what I’m saying?

There are a couple of guys I know who are always trying very hard to attract the woman they like. Some of them try too hard to prove themselves that they are really nice guys. But they are also the ones who spend the most money on women, without getting back anything in return.

Women labour them as losers.

The other group of guys are those that model themselves after the badboy persona. These guys try too hard to be cool, constantly pummeling women with excessive teasing and playing hard to get, without knowing where their limits are.

women have a couple of nicknames for these guys and I think you might heard of a few. They are, “Jackass, A**hole, Jerk, Moron”… Etc.

Look, forget everything you know about dating women. Let me share with you a new concept. Its called how you can attract any women by doing less.

All you have to do, is stop TRYING! Women have these radar like senses that tells them if you are acting to get something out of them.

Trust me, they know if you’re trying too hard to buy their attention or playing hard to get. It just reassures them that they have power over you!

Instead, take the back seat. Engage her without having a REWARD in mind.

Talk less by getting the woman to tell you more about herself and what she’s doing. The more you say, the higher your risk of screwing up by saying the wrong things.

So, just ask questions! Get the conversation going! You’ll be amazed by how much both of you can talk about, linking one topic to another just by asking open ended questions!

For example, if she is a waitress you whom you met at a Hooters’ bar, you can start off with something like “Hey, what kind of drink would you recommend to somebody who’s totally stepped over by his boss and needs to release all that frustration”?

Usually she will ask you about it followed by recommending you a drink or two (Don’t say anything negative that make you sound like a loser, tell her its your friend who need this drink)

Once the conversation gets going, you can ask her, “So what’s the worst kind of customer you have had”?, “What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done while at work”?

You see where is this going? There’s almost no end to it!

After having so much fun talking with you, she will eventually start asking about you.

The idea here, is to make the connection with her as a friend. I repeat, AS A FRIEND! She don’t even know you and having sex with you will probably be the last thing on her mind.

Every woman has that mental “shield” (Check out the video two blog post ago, that discussed about women’s shield) that protect themselves from creeps.

In order to get past her defences… Go on stealth mode! Move under her radar senses undetected by being her friend first. It’s the only way that you can move past her defences and get her to feel comfortable with you.

P.S Check back here again this Wed, I’ll be sharing with you one sex technique that make my girlfriend climax so many times in one night that I even had to fake my own orgasms! But if you need it urgently, this can save your day.